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永远不会。

大二的时候我被断掉了生活费，没钱吃饭。我恳求父母，说钱就当是我借你们的，等我工作以后就还。我爸非常冷漠地说抚养费已经给了我妈，让我找我妈要，之后再也不接我电话。我妈幸灾乐祸说“你不是挺豪横的吗，我以为你发财了呢”。正赶上我水卡的钱也用完了，大冬天只能用冷水擦身，很快就感冒了。即使如此也不敢吃什么有营养的东西，发烧冻得瑟瑟发抖也只能到学校食堂喝免费的大锅汤，一边喝一边流眼泪。

从此彻底恩断义绝。

犹豫了很久跟最好的朋友求助，向她借五百，说等我找到兼职以后就慢慢还给她。朋友很仗义，她自己也没有多少钱。但还是先转了我三百，后面她说她找理由跟父母要了七百，总共给了我一千块，还说不需要我急着还。我当时感激得说不出别的话，心里发誓以后她不管遇到什么事我都要尽力去帮。

她要是不帮我，我可能当时就在绝望里自杀了。

有了一千，吃饭的问题暂时解决了，我就开始做兼职。也是很走运，当时还没有疫情封校什么的，能随便出去找工作。真的你能想象到的所有常规大学生兼职我都尝试过。我派过传单、做过家教、写过小说、当过肯德基店员、还穿过那种娃娃皮套。

穿皮套是最累的，但钱比派传单多一点，我也就接了。当时是夏天，热得整个人都被汗浸透了。工作的时候有手贱的男的过来打皮套娃娃的头，我本来就热得头疼，被这么一搞更是头痛欲裂。我很想发火不干了，可是不干的话我去那里的路费钱就白瞎了。只能忍。

回去的路上，因为一身汗，地铁上还有人对着我捂鼻子。而且前面热了太久，后面又被地铁的冷气吹了一顿，回去又病了。本来攒了点钱，全用来看了医生。

与此同时我妈在朋友圈晒她的大餐和出去玩的照片。我怎么能不恨啊。恨死了，恨得眼泪都没有了。

在肯德基打工倒是轻松一些，只是站久了我的腰不舒服而已。肯德基的工作餐不是免费的，也需要买，只是比客人的价格低而已。但哪怕这样我也不舍得。我们店里的店长是个很负责的人，有个客人点了餐但是过了很久都没来拿，她就直接把他的汉堡扔垃圾桶了，给他换了个新的。我看了好多眼，趁没人且旁边的店员背过去，偷偷把汉堡从垃圾桶里捡了出来揣兜里。吃到了当时最好的一顿饭。

就是这么潦倒，像路边的野草一样。

后来我摸清楚了，做兼职还是得做脑力工作，体力活又累又耗时，还赚不到多少。然后我就去做了家教。遇到过少数不太讲理的家长，可是也有很好的人。有人邀请我在他们家一起吃饭，有人后来绕过家教中介（顺带一提，学生家教的中介真的很黑心，抽成非常高）跟我私下给钱。还有人给我介绍别的家长。总之慢慢地，养活我自己是不愁了，也慢慢攒到了钱。

真的是太苦了。

这里讲一下我父母为什么不给我生活费吧。小时候他们没空带我，一直把我寄养在我外公外婆家。后来他们经济好起来了，又生了我妹妹，一直把我妹妹养到三岁才将我接回来。

我在家里就像个外人一样格格不入。他们到处跟人说我和他们不亲近。实际上我努力做家务努力听话讨好他们，不亲近只是因为从小接触太少了，没法像妹妹一样撒娇。妹妹在家里非常受宠，也总是欺负我。她做错了事我承担，我就是整个家的出气筒。

后来我爸在外面有了小三，跟我妈离婚了。他们都只想要我妹妹的抚养权，不要我的。最后两个人达成的协议就是，要了妹妹的抚养权就得顺带养我。那会儿我非常痛苦，因为我妈就像后妈一样对待我，每天不是找茬就是辱骂。最恶毒的是她非常乐于在我面前跟我妹妹演母女情深的戏码，比如说跟我吵完架美滋滋地跟妹妹说走啊我们去吃东西，别理她。然后两个人高高兴兴地挽着手出门，回来还带着一堆新衣服新零食，故意放我妹妹房里。

大二的时候就是因为我回家拿走了一床被子，我妈要我还回来，说那是给我妹妹冬天准备的新被子，我没有这个时间也不想再搬一次那么重的东西，我们大吵一架后她就断掉了我的生活费。

她可能以为我恳求过她一次，吃不起饭就会回家下跪吧。可是没有，我再也没有回头。

到了大四的时候，我手里也有了几万块钱了。给我外婆买了一条金项链当礼物（我和外婆倒是感情很好，我的学费都是她出的）。我妈知道这件事后先是阴阳怪气，问我怎么能赚到这个钱。后来过了几个月又突然讨好我，说她这么久没管我冷落到我了，给我打了几百块。我说这个钱你还是留着买骨灰盒吧，然后拉黑了她。

熬过了这些年，慢慢一切都好了起来。现在我月薪税后过万，租了个公寓养了只小猫，过得很舒心。

他们现在也遭报应了。我妹妹被宠坏了，复读了一次也没有考上大学，念了个大专。我爸听说脑梗了一次，和他的第二任老婆离婚了。我妈因为我妹妹焦头烂额。我父母这几年都有尝试过来修复关系，我拉黑他们，他们就通过和我有联系的亲戚找我。都是声泪俱下言辞恳切，说到现在才发现怎么怎么忽略了我，愿意帮助我，希望我不要忘掉亲情云云。被我嘲讽后又暴跳如雷，过一段时间又再回来求我。

我的劫数过去了，他们的劫数才刚开始。

我释怀了，但我永远不会原谅。

不知道为什么评论里会有网友说“如果这是真的”“想象不出来为什么对自己孩子这么大恶意”。

贴两条当年的朋友圈自证一下吧。其实还有很多东西都在我心情不好的时候删掉了，也有一些内容涉及太多隐私没法发出来，见谅。

大概就是这样。

很多事情都难以用常理来理解，人心更是这样。

假如它没有发生在你的身上，那么你的确可以把它的概率视为0。但它落在我头上了，它就是我100%的命运。

况且，世上只有美好的东西才有道理可言。如果你问合格的父母为什么你们爱孩子，他们会说因为是我选择把他带到世界上的，这是我的血肉和责任啊；可你如果去问不合格的父母，那么往往你不会得到理由，因为只要善才有规律与理性，恶却通常是混乱的本能。

所以你如果从这个角度来质疑我，我给不了你答案，这个世界也没有给我一个答案。它就是这么发生了。

不过，我也尝试找过专业的解答。我看过给我感觉最合理的解释就是，控制欲极强的自恋型父母可能会把家里的孩子设定为“金童”和“替罪羊”两个形象，金童是他们自我的延伸，在家里承受所有的褒奖和奖励，而替罪羊则相反，ta会承受所有不合理的指控和轻视。一方面这会让这种父母虐待达到最大化，毕竟他们可以更大程度地伤害和孤立“替罪羊”，另一方面这样也会让两个孩子之间的关系分裂，让父母实现最大的掌控。

我觉得是这样，又不只是这样。还有个原因可能是，我是外公外婆带大的，我父母则自己带大了我妹妹，可能确实他们也对她付出更多感情更深吧。

不过现在想这些也没有意义了，我也早就不执著于这个问题了。

往前走才是最重要的。

所有跟我说“不要回头”的网友。谢谢你们的提醒，我不会回头的。我不是那种会把坏掉的东西粉饰成原来的样子，只为得到一点虚伪的安慰的人。我忍受不了这个。

最后祝大家都能幸福！

新闻译文：

Latter Lammas.

In my sophomore year, I was cut off from my living expenses and had no money to eat. I plead with my parents, saying that the money should be considered as something I borrowed from you, and I will repay it after I start working. My dad said very coldly that he had already given the child support to my mom and asked me to ask her for it. He never answered my phone again. My mother gloated and said, "Aren't you quite arrogant? I thought you got rich.". Coincidentally, I ran out of money from my water card and had to use cold water to wipe my body in the winter. I quickly caught a cold. Even so, I dare not eat anything nutritious. I shiver with a fever and can only go to the school cafeteria to drink free big pot soup, tears streaming down my face while drinking.

From then on, there was a complete severing of gratitude and righteousness.

After hesitating for a long time, I asked my best friend for help, borrowed 500 yuan from her, and said that I would slowly repay her when I found a part-time job. My friend is very righteous, and she doesn't have much money herself. But she still transferred me 300 yuan first, and later she said she found a reason to ask her parents for 700 yuan, giving me a total of 1000 yuan, and even said I didn't need to rush to pay it back. I was so grateful at the time that I couldn't say anything else. I swore in my heart that no matter what happened to her in the future, I would do my best to help.

If she didn't help me, I might have committed suicide in despair at the time.

With a thousand, the problem of eating has been temporarily solved, and I will start working part-time. I was also very lucky. At that time, there was no school lockdown due to the pandemic, so I could easily go out and find a job. I have really tried all the conventional part-time jobs for college students that you can imagine. I have sent flyers, worked as a tutor, written novels, worked as a KFC clerk, and even worn those doll leather covers.

Wearing a leather jacket is the most tiring, but the money is a bit more than sending flyers, so I took it. It was summer at that time, so hot that my whole body was soaked in sweat. When I was working, a man with cheap hands came over to slap the head of a stuffed doll. I was already hot and had a headache, which made it even more unbearable. I really want to get angry and quit, but if I don't do it, my travel expenses there will be in vain. Can only endure.

On the way back, I was covered in sweat and there were people on the subway covering their noses at me. And it was too hot in the front, and then it was blown by the subway's air conditioning in the back, and I fell ill again when I went back. I originally saved some money and used it all to see a doctor.

At the same time, my mother shared photos of her big meal and going out to play on her social media. How can I not hate it. I hate it so much that my tears are gone.

Working at KFC is a bit easier, it's just that my waist feels uncomfortable after standing for a long time. KFC's work meals are not free and also need to be purchased, just at a lower price than the customer's. But even so, I am not willing to give up. Our store manager is a very responsible person. A customer ordered a meal but didn't come to pick it up after a long time. She just threw his hamburger in the trash can and replaced it with a new one. I looked at it many times, and when there was no one around and the salesperson next to me carried it over, I secretly picked up the hamburger from the trash can and put it in my pocket. I had the best meal at that time.

It's just so down and out, like weeds on the roadside.

Later on, I found out that doing part-time jobs still requires doing mental work. physical work is tiring and time-consuming, and I can't earn much. Then I went to do tutoring. I have encountered a few unreasonable parents, but there are also very good people. Someone invited me to have dinner at their house, and someone later bypassed the tutoring agency (by the way, the student tutoring agency is really unscrupulous, with very high commissions) and gave me money privately. Someone else introduced me to other parents. In short, gradually, I no longer have to worry about supporting myself and have also gradually saved up money.

It's really too hard.

Here's why my parents don't give me living expenses. When I was a child, they didn't have time to take me with them and kept me in foster care with my grandparents. Later on, their economy improved and they gave birth to my younger sister. They raised my sister until she was three years old before bringing me back.

I feel out of place at home like an outsider. They tell people everywhere that I am not close to them. In fact, I work hard to do housework and try to be obedient and please them. I don't get close just because I have had too little contact since I was young, and I can't act spoiled like my younger sister. My younger sister is very favored at home and always bullies me. I take responsibility for what she did wrong, and I am the punching bag for the whole family.

Later, my dad had a mistress outside and divorced my mom. They all just want custody of my sister, not mine. The final agreement reached between the two was that if they wanted custody of their sister, they would have to take care of me. At that time, I was very painful because my mother treated me like a stepmother, either finding fault or insulting me every day. The most vicious thing is that she is very happy to play mother daughter scenes with my sister in front of me. For example, after arguing with me, she happily tells my sister to leave and let's go eat without paying attention to her. Then the two of them happily joined hands and went out, bringing back a bunch of new clothes and snacks, deliberately leaving them in my sister's room.

In my sophomore year, it was because I took a blanket home and my mother asked me to return it. She said it was a new blanket prepared for my sister's winter, and I didn't have the time or want to move such heavy things again. After we had a big argument, she cut off my living expenses.

She might have thought that I had begged her once, and if she couldn't afford to eat, she would go home and kneel down. But no, I never looked back.

In my senior year, I also had tens of thousands of yuan in my hands. I bought a gold necklace as a gift for my grandmother (she and I have a great relationship, and our tuition fees are all covered by her). After learning about this, my mother first had a strange reaction and asked me how I could earn this money. After a few months, she suddenly tried to please me again, saying that she had neglected me for so long and gave me a few hundred yuan. I said you should keep the money to buy an urn, and then blacklisted her.

After enduring these years, everything gradually improved. Now my monthly salary after tax is over 10000 yuan, and I have rented an apartment and raised a kitten, living a very comfortable life.

They have also been punished now. My younger sister was spoiled and even after repeating her studies, she didn't get into college. Instead, she went to college. My dad heard that he had a brain infarction once and divorced his second wife. My mother is extremely anxious because of my sister. My parents have been trying to repair their relationship in recent years. When I tried to blackmail them, they approached me through relatives who had contact with me. They were all in tears and sincere words, only to realize now how they had ignored me. They were willing to help me, hoping that I would not forget their family affection. After being mocked by me, he became furious and came back to beg me again after a while.

My fate is over, their fate has just begun.

I am relieved, but I will never forgive.

I don't know why there are netizens in the comments who say "if this is true" and "I can't imagine why they are so malicious towards their children".

Post two pieces of self certification from your old friend circle. Actually, there are still many things that I deleted when I was in a bad mood, and there are also some contents that involve too much privacy and cannot be posted. I apologize.

That's probably it.

Many things are difficult to understand with common sense, and human hearts are even more so.

If it doesn't happen to you, then you can indeed consider its probability to be 0. But it fell on my head, it is my 100% destiny.

Moreover, only beautiful things make sense in the world. If you ask qualified parents why they love their children, they will say that because I chose to bring them into the world, this is my flesh and blood and responsibility; But if you ask unqualified parents, you often won't get a reason, because only good can have laws and rationality, while evil is usually a chaotic instinct.

So if you question me from this perspective, I can't give you an answer, and the world hasn't given me an answer either. That's how it happened.

However, I have also tried to find professional answers. The most reasonable explanation I have seen is that narcissistic parents with a strong desire for control may set their children in two different roles: the "golden child" and the "scapegoat". The golden child is an extension of themselves, receiving all the praise and rewards at home, while the scapegoat is the opposite, He will bear all unreasonable accusations and contempt. On the one hand, this will maximize parental abuse, as they can harm and isolate the scapegoat to a greater extent. On the other hand, it will also divide the relationship between the two children, allowing parents to achieve maximum control.

I think so, not just that. Another reason may be that I was raised by my grandparents, while my parents raised my younger sister themselves. perhaps they have also invested more and deeper emotions in her.

But it's meaningless to think about these things now, and I'm no longer fixated on this issue.

Moving forward is the most important thing.

All the netizens who said "don't look back" to me. Thank you for your reminder. I won't look back. I am not the kind of person who will whitewash broken things to their original appearance, just to get a little hypocritical comfort. I can't stand this.

Finally, I wish everyone happiness!

句子分析1：

 they will say that because I chose to bring them into the world, this is my flesh and blood and responsibility.

句子成分分析：

they will say | that because I chose to bring them [into the world], || this is my flesh and blood and responsibility;

句子语法结构详解：

(chose 为 choose 的过去式。)

* say 为谓语，采用一般将来时。
* that 为连词，引导宾语从句。
* because 为连词，引导原因状语从句。
* chose 为谓语，采用一般过去时。
* to bring 为不定式，作宾语。
* this 开头为陈述句。
* is 为系动词作谓语，采用一般现在时。
* will 为情态动词。they, I 为人称代词主格。them 为人称代词宾格。my 为形容词型物主代词。this 为指示代词。the 为定冠词。

相关语法知识:
   时态
   宾语从句
   状语从句
   不定式
   系动词
   并列连词
   人称代词 | 情态动词 | 指示代词 | 物主代词

句子相关词汇解释：

Vocabulary:

句子语法错误检查：

(未发现错误)

句子分析2：

 it will also divide the relationship between the two children, allowing parents to achieve maximum control.

句子成分分析：

it will [also] divide the relationship between the two children, || allowing parents to achieve maximum control.

句子语法结构详解：

(children 为 child 的复数形式。)

* divide 为谓语，采用一般将来时。
* allowing 开头为陈述句。
* allowing 为现在分词作定语
* to achieve 为不定式，作后置定语。
* control 为谓语，采用一般现在时。
* will 为情态动词。the 为定冠词。

相关语法知识:
   时态
   现在分词
   不定式
   情态动词

句子相关词汇解释：

Vocabulary:

句子语法错误检查：

(未发现错误)

句子相关学习点：

 between 和 among 的区别

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